Life experiences do not define who we are, but sometimes those experiences build character that allows us to recognize individual strengths by which we were once blinded, but has allowed us to overcome. We don’t always know the capacities of our strengths unless we endure hardship and endurance builds character (Romans 5:4).
Who does God say you are?
The bible is filled with knowledge of what God thinks of us. He says that we are fearfully and wonderfully made because he created us and that he knit us together before we were born- knowing everything about us, even our deepest thoughts (Psalms 139). He also says that we are made in His image (Genesis 1:27), and that he is pleased with us (Psalms 149:4). The fact that God knows us and is pleased with us could help us grasp what he thinks of us. To understand what God thinks of us, our true identities in Christ, calls for spending some time in scripture and coming to the understanding of it, spending time with Christ alone, and with like-minded people who will encourage our faith. Knowing who we are through Christ is the ultimate satisfaction. He wants to reveal it to you!
How to remain grounded in your identity:
Know who you are
The first key to staying grounded in your identity is by simply knowing who you are. Once you’ve unveiled your true identity, practice everyday living in your discovery of self. We are always evolving and changing with time and experiences, so allowing yourself to grow while holding firm to where you’ve (already) arrived is critical to the long-term health of identity establishment.
Not there yet? Don’t worry. Keep living and growing and in your journey, with the guidance of Jesus Christ, you will come to the full knowing of who God says you are. There is no hurry; he knows just where you are.
Do not compromise who you are to be accepted
If you’re not accepted by others, try putting aside offense because of their rejection and find people who will accept you. Even if the numbers are few, continue surrounding yourself with people who will allow you to be free in your identity. If you enjoy theatre- performance dance or poetry night at the social hut, it may not be a good idea to start finding your spot with the biker group. This certainly doesn’t mean you can’t have friends of different interest than your own, but for starters, finding friends who share your interest is a fit that rarely fails.
Learn to love what makes you unique
Do you enjoy going to see the latest showing at the art museum over the weekend while most of your friends are at the movies or a neighborhood party? Whatever it is that stands you apart from the majority, continue to stand in that place and learn to love that facet of you. Although there is nothing wrong with going to the movies or to a party with friends, learning to accept your own interests first, will inspire you to embrace your uniqueness.